Run in such a way….

Lance Armstrong is truly an amazing sports figure. Did you know that he:

  •Was raised by single mom

 •Finished 14th in first Olympics at age 21

•Turned pro at age 21

•Finished dead last in 1st professional road race

•Pulled out of his 1st Tour de France at 21

•Won the World Race Championship at 21 – after crashing twice

•Finished 2nd in Tour duPont at 22

•Finished 1st next yr in record time at age 23

•Finished 12th in 1996 Olympics at age 25

•Pulled out of Tour de France

•Diagnosed with cancer at 25

•Given 40-50% chance to live (Cancer was found in his abdomen, lungs, lymph glands and even his brain)

His hard work and grueling training regime were finally starting to pay off, and then he receives a death sentence. Do you ever feel like life is just too hard, or that your marriage is just way too much work? Ever feel like you’ve tried and tried, but your best just isn’t good enough?

All of us feel like throwing in the towel sometimes. Marriage is indeed hard work. I Corinthians 7 tells us up front that, “those who are marriage will face hardships in this life” – but the preacher seemed to have left out that part from the ceremony. Sometimes we feel like we have nothing left – we have been given a 40-50% chance of making it. What are we going to do? Curl up in front of the tv, or get back up on the “bike” of being the husband God calls us to be…… check this out….

•Less than 2 years after his diagnosis, aggressive chemotherapy and surgeries – Armstrong began to train again.

The following year he won the prestigious Tour de France. He went on to win it every year from 1999-2005 – a record 7 times.

I am inspired by world-class athletes. I am more inspired by world-class husbands who work hard through the painful, lonely times, and come out winners – for the glory of God.

  I Cor. 9:24 – Run in such a way that you may win.


What if…….

I heard a provocative question the other day that I wanted to throw out to the husband gang…..

If you didn’t have to worry about making a living, what would you most like to do for the rest of your life?

If a long lost relative left you a trust fund that paid you what you’re making now (okay, maybe a little more) every month for the rest of your lifetime – what would you most like to do with your life?

I was honestly disappointed at how fast my mind fast-forwarded to so many selfish, self-gratifying things. Sorry to admit, but my first thoughts were of me, and what I would like, and what I would buy, and what I would do with all that time off. Would I take the time and do nothing? Would I veg out? Would I keep my job and have extra money to spend on fun toys for me?

After slapping myself around for a bit, I tried to hear from God. I tried to dream about what He would have me do for the rest of my days. What would make my life special – really count for something? If I didn’t have to go in to the office – where would I go? What would He want me to do?

Let’s include your wife’s income also – so neither of you has to work any more…….. What would you do with the rest of your life?

(If no one comments, I guess it wasn’t that provocative after all.)


What’s Your GPS?

As a husband, telling me to “love my wife” sometimes comes across like directions to a house in the country: “Take a left at the big rock, go for a while, and take another left at the tree with the giant bump on the limb.” It’s just too vague. That’s what’s nice about having a GPS; it’s a map that clearly reveals how to reach my destination.
When it comes to loving my wife, I’ve made it a habit to carry a marriage “GPS” in my wallet. It’s written on a piece of paper and shows me the way to my wife’s heart. I ask her to share with me three things I can do that make her feel loved. Instead of guessing what makes her feel loved, I seek out what actions I can take that will truly bless her. Sure, the first time I asked her, it was pretty scary. I was giving her a blank check and agreeing to perform whatever she asked. However, because I desire to love and serve her, I want to do whatever it takes to treasure her.
I recently asked my wife again to give me her Top Three list. Below are the ways I’m going to love her:
1) Hold her hand in public
2) Vacuum the carpet every week
3) Occasionally tell her that she is beautiful
Over the next couple months, I’m going to work hard to love my wife in these ways. And it sure is a great feeling to know specific actions I can take to show her my love rather than guessing the way to her heart.