Needless to say, it has been a very long week for Coach P, his family and the U of A administration. As I have pondered this sad tale, I have been struck with a few thoughts I wanted to share with you guys. I would love to hear yours as well.
Why are we surprised when another high profile man falls? Coach P. is just one of a long, long line of high profile athletes, coaches, celebrities, Bible characters, pastors, fathers and friends that have taken Satan’s bait, and gotten caught in their sin. He is a man; a guy – with the same urges, drives, emotional needs, temptations we all have. It seems we put men like him on some sort of pedestal, or simply think they are not the same as we are.
But, indeed, Bobby is one of us. Tempted to watch movies he shouldn’t watch, gaze at internet sites he shouldn’t visit, flirt with women he should stay away from, hire women he shouldn’t hire, and set himself up for a great fall. Like most of us, somewhere along our journey, we have thought to ourselves – “no one will ever know”, or worse yet, “I can handle it”.
The truth is – we can’t handle it, and people will know. Satan lies and deceives us, and then laughs a big belly laugh when we fall for it, and severely damage our life, reputation and witness.
Bobby, like all of us, began his marriage never intending to be led astray by a younger woman, and devastate his wife and family. He loved them. He would tell us even today that he loves them – and he most likely does. He just played an age-old game with the enemy – with the same results that have occurred for centuries – he lost. He is like the young man in Proverbs 7:
vv. 6-9 – While I was at the window of my house, looking through the curtain, I saw some naive young men,
and one in particular who lacked common sense. He was crossing the street near the house of an immoral woman,
strolling down the path by her house. It was at twilight, in the evening, as deep darkness fell.
The guy knows this immoral woman lives on this particular street; he knows she is typically standing around the street corner in the early evening, and he knows her reputation – yet, he seems surprised when he is seduces by her and falls into sin – like he never saw it coming. Of course he saw it coming, he set himself up for the kill. He deliberately chose to walk into the trap. He has no one else to blame. Some would say – he reaped what he sowed.
So it is with Bobby. So it is with us.
There is most likely a long list of compromises, choices, justifications and “setting himself ups” – that led up to the infamous motorcycle ride and crash. The jury is still out as to what consequences will be reaped, but severe damage has already been inflicted.
None of us has the intention of reaping destruction on our life, our marriage, our children, their children, our reputation, character, name, heritage, witness, etc., yet men are notorious for making small, misguided, deceptive, dangerous choices that can do exactly that. Lesson 1?
Stop now. Don’t go near her door. Don’t visit the websites. Flee. Pull away from the magnet that draws you in. Admit your need. Tell a close friend (mentor) and pray. It is not worth it. Don’t listen to the lies. Take action before you wreck your motorcycle, and your world crumbles around you.