A husband and wife sharing a special night out together on a regular basis, aka – date night – is a great idea. Setting aside some time from our hectic pace of life, finding a few quiet moments away from the kids, and staying in emotional touch with the love of our life are all noble motives that compels us to make date night a regular event on the calendar.
But, are those the true reasons that motivate us? Does our heart truly long to gaze into our lover’s eyes, and get reconnected at a deep emotional level or are there other, more sinister motives hidden in our selfish hearts?
On two separate occasions recently, my wife and I were eating out together and were saddened to watch two couples, one older than we, and one much younger, who ordered their meals, waited for them, ate them and left – all without uttering a word to each other. Really. They spent around 30 minutes “together” in a nice restaurant, and may as well had been alone. No speaking. No engaging. No connection. Was this their “date night”, we asked?
Has date night become another marriage ritual that “experts” say we “should do” together to have a great marriage? Even more convicting – has it become a mostly boring, but necessary tactic used by sex-starved husbands to bargain for some hanky-panky? “I took you to dinner and a movie, now what are you going to do for me?”
What about you? Do you and your wife enjoy regular date nights? Do you truly look forward to them, creatively plan them, and expect nothing from them other than the chance to just hang out and enjoy the woman you fell in love with once upon a time?
Do us all a favor – and share a date night tip, or suggestion that can help us break out of the “dinner and a movie” rut. Nothing wrong with that, but let’s share some more engaging ways to connect. Why is date night important to you? This is your chance to coach, inspire and challenge the rest of us.
Ladies – PLEASE share your thoughts too about what YOU enjoy, and/or would like to do on date night.