Would you like to have a better marriage? Are you willing to do one simple exercise in order to get there?
Jesus gave us the 11th commandment in John 13:34:
“I am giving you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, so you too are to love one another”.
We are commanded to love each other “like” Jesus loves us. How does he love us? The bottom-line answer is – completely, unselfishly, unconditionally. He laid his life down for us…he gave, he served, he died….for us.
Knowing that this kind of love is impossible for us to give each other (apart from the daily choice to let him fill us with his Spirit and give us the power/grace to love like this)…let me give you an exercise to do together that will help improve your marriage immediately:
Sit down together and ask each other to answer the following question. No matter what he/she says, write it down and keep it with you (wallet/purse, etc.) so you can reference it often.
“Would you tell me 3 ways I can better show you how much I love and appreciate you?”
Don’t question or downplay what he/she says, because their answer will give you insight into their heart and what they truly need/desire from you. Their answer is their answer (not yours) and you need to embrace it. Then you need to make sure you DO what they tell you. If you aren’t willing to do that – then don’t go through the motions. That will just make your relationship worse.
Loving “like Jesus” means loving enough to give your life away for your spouse. This will get you started on the right track.
Be courageous. Be deliberate. Let Jesus love your spouse through you.
Tell me how it goes……