We all know where the door is. You know….”that” door. The door to that sin that always seems to bring us down, and leave us feeling guilty, shameful and like a failure. For most men, that door is the gateway to some sort of sexual sin.
There is something that draws us to that door; something powerful; something tantalizing; something we know is wrong but we continue to go back to it. We all know the path to “that” door for us. For one it may be the computer. For another, the television. For some it may be the cute retail clerk, or the bank teller. For some it is more of a mental door, a fantasy life that no one knows about but you and God. For many it is a female friend, or a friend’s wife, or an attractive colleague or business contact.
Each time we go there it seems it is easier to find, and not as far away as it once was. Somehow we are mysteriously fed by the danger. We know we shouldn’t, but our senses come alive to the adventure, even though we know it could cost us dearly.
Why then, if we know where the door is, and the steep price we pay (or could pay) for opening it and going in – do we keep going there? Are we addicted? Can we help ourselves? Are we slaves to our flesh? Is there any relief in sight, or is this the battle we must fight our entire life on earth?
We all know the Bible is very clear when it comes to dealing with sin of any kind. Even though we are forgiven by a generous, loving Father, we know sin has consequences, and some are life altering. Because God loves us and desires us to live an abundant life, free from the bondage to sin, He has also provided us “all things” we need to live that life. So what do we do with what we know?
Step 1 – Give Up
Sounds easy, but it’s not. Jesus said if we would “seek His kingdom, and righteousness first – He would provide us everything we need in this life. He told the disciples to “follow me, and I Will Make You fishers of men”. If we will deliberately and daily follow Him, (truly walk with Him, listen to His voice and do what He says) – He promises to “make us” into the men, husbands, dads, etc. He desires us to be – and we want to be.
The first step out of the bondage of sexual sin of any kind, is to acknowledge that we can’t free ourselves. He must give up and become desperate for Him. Desperate for time with Him. Desperate for long periods of time in His presence – in prayer and marinating in His Word. We have to make it our top priority, every day, or we will start to feel the magnetic pull coming from the door. Acknowledge that we can’t free ourselves, and fall on our face in humility and desperation.
Read Psalm 103….and read it often. We have a gracious, patient, loving, powerful Father and He is anxious to help us get free and stay free – but we have to do the following, and we have to choose to follow every day. He can’t make us do that part.
Romans 8:5 – Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires.
Romans 13:14 – Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the flesh.
We are the only ones who can “live”, “set our minds”, “clothe ourselves”, “do not think about”. You and I both know that we can’t seem to do any of these for very long, or very consistently. We can’t free ourselves – we don’t have the power, and may not even want to. The old “I’ll try harder next time”, or “I’ll never do that again” sort of false promise to ourselves (and to God) just doesn’t work. We have to give up and run to our only hope – Jesus.
He has everything we need, and He is longing to help.
Next post – Part 2 – Galatians 5:16 – So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.