We all do it. Whether we admit it or not, we all make resolutions about the new year.
Most of us have personal goals, like how much weight we would like to lose, or that we need to eat more healthy or get more exercise. We certainly have business goals, some of our own making and some made for us…. sales goals, working more/less hours, gaining new clients, less travel away from home, etc.
These thoughts seem to flood our mind in between bowl games this time of year. We start thinking about a brand new year ahead and what we would like to do better, or differently. Surely, this will be the best year ever. This will be a break-through year.
I am already thinking about cleaning off my desk, and being more organized. I’m going to be more deliberate about getting new business, and making some needed changes to my ministry focus. So much to think about. I need more vacation time to plan all this.
Forgive me, but I feel it is my duty, my calling, to remind you (and me) that our 2012 top priorities should remain #1 our daily, personal walk with Christ and #2 our daily, deliberate relationship with our wife. This year, let’s think beyond our typical man ideas of – I’ll read through the One-Year Bible, or I’ll get involved in a small group (both are great things to do by the way).
Spend some time asking your Father what He would like you to do to get to know Him better this coming year. Think beyond religious activity and about a personal relationship. What would make your relationship with the Father the best and closest it has ever been in 2012?
Then, spend some deliberate time thinking about how to become the very best husband on the planet in 2012. It will take thought, but more importantly, it will take action. How can you become more emotionally engaged with her? How can you carve out more time together? How can you court/date her more deliberately? How can you regularly demonstrate to her how much you love her? What can you do every single day to appreciate and affirm her as God’s personal provision and helper?
Write down the ideas God puts in your heart. Keep them in your wallet, or in your Daytimer. Be daring, and ask her how you can be better at the things mentioned above.
Make 2012 the year of being a more Deliberate Husband. Think about it. Plan it. Do it.
Read at least one marriage/relationship book this year. Read one together. Go to a marriage class or seminar together. Spend more nights away today – away from the kids and the office. Invest heavily in your relationship.
Ephesians 5:28 – he who loves his wife, loves himself. (ie: your needs will be met as you meet hers first).
2 Corinthians 9:6 – The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.
In 2012 – let’s all challenge each other to sow bountifully into our marriage relationship. Our marriage will thrive if we do….. and God will smile.
Happy New Year!