Yes, another March Madness has come and gone. Judging by most of the brackets I saw, it was mad indeed. A great tourney. I was reminded how even folks like me can not watch a single college basketball game during the regular season, but become rabid fans of teams we know nothing about when the brackets begin to be filled in – especially if there is a pool of some kind to participate it. I guess once a competitor, always a competitor.
Most men, it seems, are competitive about something (some about everything). Our job status, our home, our car, our clothes, our bodies, our toys, our ministries, and even our wives – are all areas where we consciously or subconsciously find ourselves competing with one another. Something internally drives us to “win” in life. We all want to succeed, to be the best at something, (shoot – many would just like to be know as “good” at something). We all long to be significant. We want our life to count. Am I wrong?
[ are you secretly pleased to see that you have more Facebook friends or Twitter followers than someone else?] just sayin..
God created you and me with an internal desire to compete, to accomplish, and to win. The first created relationship on earth was between Adam and God. That was, and still should be, our top priority each day. Next, He created the only relationship He declared to be “very good” and the relationship that is to take top priority over all others on this planet – marriage. See I Cor. 7:33-34.
The point is this – are you and I as competitive about how we finish the marriage race, as we are with other, lesser things in this life? God tells us that our marriage is to be “honored above all”, and our wife is to be our #1 priority in this life. Do we run “in such a way as to obtain the prize” when it comes to our marriage relationship? Do we run at all? Do we just assume we have already finished the race somehow because we have “obtained” our wife?
God created your wife, and then brought her to you. She is His precious daughter, and He is seriously watching how you treat her – and one day you and I will stand before Him to give Him an account for how we did. Wow. God takes marriage very seriously. I should too. We all should too.
1 Corinthians 9:24
In a race all the runners run. But only one gets the prize. You know that, don’t you? So run in a way that will get you the prize.
2 Timothy 4:7
I have fought the good fight. I have finished the race. I have kept the faith.
A huge cloud of witnesses is all around us. So let us throw off everything that stands in our way. Let us throw off any sin that holds on to us so tightly. Let us keep on running the race marked out for us.
Heavenly crowds are cheering for us. God is cheering for us. Your children, family, friends and church are too.
Let’s take March Madness and ask Him to let it carry over to Marriage Madness. Let’s use our created, competitive instincts to do whatever it takes to win this “race” and stand before the Father one day, bow as He slips the “prize” over our head and hear Him say – “well done, son” – I am proud of you”.
Arise Deliberate Husbands,