What Will They Say?

Marriage is more than your love for each other. It has a higher dignity and power, for it is God’s holy institution through which God wishes to preserve humanity until the end of time” Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Letters and Papers from Prison.

Do you ever stop to think about your marriage in terms of the legacy you are leaving to your children, and their children, and their children? I would venture to say that most couples struggle just to make it through the week, and have little brain space left to think at all. But, your marriage is much bigger than you think.

You are married, by God’s grace and will, for a much greater and higher purpose than “trying to get these kids raised, earn a living and someday retire on the lake”. God designed marriage (not the church) to be the primary institution through which He would proclaim and demonstrate His love to the world. When your children, family, neighbors and friends look at your marriage – do they witness the unconditional, unselfish love of Christ for His bride – or something far more unsavory?

We have got to stop and consider the impact our marriage is having, and will have, on future generations. Will your children desire a marriage like yours, or pray for something much different? Will you leave them money and things – or a spiritual heritage that will impact them, their children and their children’s children?

Your marriage matters. It matters now, and it matters for generations to come.

Your spiritual legacy is what will matter most. Is your marriage built on the foundation of a daily, personal walk with the Author of marriage? Do your kids witness the love of Jesus for His bride when they watch how you treat your wife? Do they know what your marriage is built upon; the lessons you have learned from the mistakes you have made; or what convictions you share as a couple?

Yes, we all fall short – but the point is, are we even thinking about it?

It has been said – “the best thing about the past, is that you can create a new one by making good decisions from now on”. We all have the opportunity to live our lives, and lead our marriages, in such a way as to glorify God and leave a powerful, meaningful legacy for those who walk behind us. Will we take advantage of this opportunity or just go about our daily routines until it is too late?

Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see – Neil Postman

I want my marriage to count. What about you?