Yes, the Bible is very clear that wives are to respect their husbands.
It is also very clear that husbands are to be men worthy of honor and respect. God never intended for husbands to be selfish tyrants, or passive wimps. We are commanded and challenged to become servant leaders, protectors and providers to our wives, just like He was (and is) to His bride – the church.
Husbands – love your wives “just as Christ” loved the church and gave Himself up for her….
In the same way (same as Jesus), husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he nourishes and cherishes it, “just as” Christ does the church.
Husbands – love your wife and do not be harsh with her.
Husbands – in the same way be considerate (understanding) as you live with your wife, treat her with respect as a fellow heir, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
The preceding verses from Ephesians 5, Colossians 3 and I Peter 3 – are not simply holy suggestions from God to be considered by husbands. They are commandments to us, with the same weightiness as “thou shall not…”. Are you burdened by these commandments in that way? Am I? We should be. God views them that way and holds us accountable as well.
Basically men, we are called by God to love our wives and treat them with them like He treats His bride. If we do this, our wives will, by design, be more inclined to respond with love and respect for us. If they see our love by the way in which we serve God and serve them; if they see us honoring Christ by nourishing and cherishing them “as Christ does” – their natural response will be to respect us. We don’t love, serve, provide and protect in order to gain respect (selfish motive). We do these things because we are told to by a loving and wise Father – and we want to glorify and honor Him – regardless of our wife’s reaction or response.
Let’s be responsible to become the husband we are called to be by God. Lets work on what we can work on – ourselves. Our wife can’t do it for us, our buddies can’t either – and God won’t do it for us either. We have to take responsibility to make the daily choices necessary to follow Him, listen to His voice – and do what He says. If we do, He promises to do the rest – and our lives, as well as our marriages, will be the better for it.As the head, it is he who is responsible for his wife, for their marriage, and for their home. On him falls the care and protection of the family;he represents it to the outside world;he is its mainstay and comfort;he is the master of the house, who exhorts, corrects,helps, and comforts and stands for it before God. It is a good thing, for it is a divine ordinance when the wife honors the husband for his office’s sake, and when the husband properly performs the duties of his office. Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Letters and Papers from Prison, 30.
Let’s become more deliberate about obeying God and loving our wives, and in doing so become men worthy of our wife’s respect,