The 11th Commandment?

We’re all familiar with the first ten….but have you heard about # 11?

And may I also tell you that this one is every bit as important and to be observed as the ten Moses retreived from God Himself. This is not a holy suggestion..

Jesus said in John 13:34 – “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another”.

As spouses, we are called (commanded) to love each other “as” Christ loved us (and still does). The obvious question is then – “how did/does He love us?”. Great question…

He loved us, and died a horribly painful death for us, in spite of our performance or our response. So, let me ask a question….do you love your spouse the same way? Does your love rise and fall depending on his/her response to you or performance (meeting your needs, meeting your expectations, etc.)?

Jesus’ words bring great conviction to me. Is my love for my wife based on how I feel about her at the time, or if she is making me happy at the moment or meeting my needs first? Paul reminds us that husbands are to love our wives “as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Eph.5:25).

How do we obey the 11th commandment? By loving our spouse “as Jesus loves us” – unconditionally and regardless of how I feel or how she “performs”. If I am not loving her this way, I need to look vertically. I need God’s help to love “as” He loves me. More on that in a future post…

Ask God to help you, listen to what He says…and then start to do it. You will be glad you did.