Two years ago, an 82-year-old former Nepalese foreign minister died on the slopes of Mount Everest while attempting to become the oldest person to climb the world’s highest mountain. Last year Swedish mountaineer and professional skier Fredrik ”Frippe” Ericsson fell to his death while attempting to become the first man to ski down from the summit of the mighty 28,253-foot K2, the world’s second tallest peak. He was 35.
Base jumping from a bridge. Driving a motorcycle over 375 mph. Kayaking over falls. Diving from cliffs. The list goes on and on. Through the years men have tried some amazing stunts, and many have lost their lives in the process. But why? It seems there is something inside us that beckons us to conquer, to master and to achieve.
I can vividly remember as a young boy getting bored with my roller skates. They just weren’t challenging enough. So, I took the skates off the bottoms and screwed them onto the bottom of a small piece of wood to create a new-fangled gizmo called a skateboard. Helmet? No need. Elbow and knee pads? Hadn’t been invented yet. But the danger factor only increased the adrenaline rush.
What is your big challenge today? Lowering your golf score? Catching your trophy bass? Conquering a difficult video game? Getting a raise? Making your 2014 sales goals? Losing that spare tire? Quitting smoking? Learning a new language, or getting an advanced degree? Chances are most of us are working on a challenge of some kind.
Here’s one for all of us to consider?
Becoming a world-class husband. Are any of us really working on that? Are we in training? Do we spend hours a week attempting to do it better? Do we invest much of our time, energy or money in pursuit of this elusive goal?
Sadly, the answer for most guys I know (myself included) is no. Somehow we feel that if we just keep going to church, work hard to make a living, and try to not get derailed morally – that things will be just fine. It always amazes me that we will send so much more time planning a fishing or golf outing than planning a weekend getaway with our wife. We’ll spend lots of money on fishing tackle or golf lessons, but how much have we spent on a great marriage book or seminar? Okay – you get the idea.
Here’s the challenge……….
Read a marriage-related book this summer. Here’s a short list:
Love and War – Eldredge
Love and Respect – Eggerichs
This Momentary Marriage – Piper
CHOiCES – Thorpe
Read it together for more maximum effect. Talk to your spouse about what you’re reading and what God is speaking to you about it. Spend time, spend money – but above all – “DO” what the book(s) say. Reading a book will never make you a great spouse, or make your marriage wonderfully fulfilling. We have to do something….every day…for the rest of our marriage.
Want a great marriage? Work at it. Spend time, effort an money on it. The reward will be much greater than a lower golf score, or a trophy bass or deer on the wall.