When things aren’t going well in your marriage, it is very easy to look across the table and blame your spouse. If only…he would help out more around the house. If only…she would be more engaged sexually.
Spouse blaming can be traced all the way back to the Garden of Eden. After Adam & Eve ate the forbidden fruit, God came looking for them. When He asked Adam why he ate, he quickly pointed his finger at Eve – “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”
Remember, this was the same woman he longed for a chapter earlier and was beside himself with excitement when God “brought her” to him. “bone of my bone” he said; “flesh of my flesh” he said. Now – at the first sign of trouble…he tells God it’s her fault. He actually implies also that it is God’s fault.
Even though it is hard-wired in our sinful DNA to think of someone else as the cause of our problems, the Bible makes it very clear who our enemy/adversary actually is:
Then the dragon was enraged at the woman and went off to wage war against the rest of her offspring—those who keep God’s commands and hold fast their testimony about Jesus. Revelation 12:17
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:12
I am convinced that the Westen church was done a miserable job of educating/training believers in spirual warfare. We have a diabolical, relentless enemy. The same enemy Jesus faced daily, and who he said he came to destroy. The same enemy who deceived Adam and Eve and is still deceiving Christians today.
Make it a top priority to read/study spiritual warfare if you want to improve your marriage relationship. If both you and your spouse are well versed in the enemy’s schemes, in the weapons and authority provided us in Jesus, and how to “wrestle” effectively – your marriage will flourish.
We have an enemy who hates you and your Christian marriage. He is working overtime to “kill, still and destroy” both.
Are you fighting? Are you winning?
You are in a war…..train well….fight well.